"But it was not this way from the beginning," Jesus reminds us. A stubborn and hardened heart is never God's design for a husband and wife-it never has been and never will be. It is in this passage we find the basis for what we call The Marriage Miracle: If two hardened hearts will destroy a marriage, then two softened hearts will heal a marriage.
Stop and consider this question: Is there any hurt, disappointment,violation, abuse, broken promise, or betrayal in a marriage that two softened hearts ultimately cannot heal? As we observed earlier, when two people soften their hearts toward each other, it becomes only a matter of when, not if, the two spouses will reconcile.
Think back on your own experience in marriage or in other relationships.Perhaps you found yourself alienated or estranged from someone who used to be a close friend. One or both of your hearts had hardened toward the other. If that person is once again a close friend, isn't it because the two of you chose to soften your hearts toward each other?
If each partner connects with their spouse's heart-maybe for the very first time in their marriage-there is no issue that cannot be resolved. That's why our primary attitude toward divorce is that it's so unnecessary. God has a plan that is so much better, and it doesn't require court costs, legal fees, or dividing up property. It may requirea couple to do the hard work of seeking biblical counseling and other resources to restore their marriage, but once two hearts are softened, it's only a matter of time until reconciliation occurs.
by Bob and Cheryl Moeller
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